8 Relationships Tips
1. Put the Other Person First.
Connect and build trust. Commit time on your agenda to sharing with them.
Share information that would benefit the other person’s life.
Self centeredness serves only one person in a relationship, and leads to
isolation of the parties involved from each other.
2. Reach Out and Connect.
If building a relationship is your first priority, dedicate one-on-one
time, exploring what is important to the other person.Practice behaviors
that are conducive to connecting and sharing rather than isolating.
3. Be More Curious.
Show interest in others. Share your interests and history.Don’t be a
4. Uncover Shared Values and Interests.
Look for the clues they’re everywhere. Observe what they read, movies
they like, magazines they read, favorite cuisine,photos, style of clothing
favorite past times, hobbies and so on. Ask about what you observe with
discretion. Become their ‘student’ within reason.
5. Be more Open and Vulnerable. Discuss What you do and don’t
Vulnerability shows honesty and builds trust.
6. Ask Questions that Build Trust.
e.g I Was born in_____. Are you originally from here?
e.g My spouse is a ____and your husband/wife?
e.g My son/daughter is_____and is a _____. How about yours?
e.g. What community interests do you or your spouse have?
e.g I’ve been with _____org/temple/church for_____years. And you?
7. Listen. Really Listen.
Talk only about 40% of the time
This practice prevents you from asking overly personal
questions.The protocol of discretion and respect for privacy is to be
observed at all times.
Discretion ,Respect and Patience, lead to Trust and ease of the other
person in your presence.
This prompts revelation of personal and sometimes intimate details in a
short time , wthout any prompting by you.
By listening,observing and asking only relevant questions you are
able to relate and connect, based on facts and information revealed
through your inspiring the other person to be similarly
8. Stay Connected.
Show you care. Take time to process what they are saying. Embellish
their response by sharing your thoughts and experiences.
Lynette Laveau Saxe
Host/Producer of Callalloo Express Radio Show on’ Relationships’
Every Monday 12:00pm – 2:00pm