Self Acceptance

The Value of Self-Acceptance in Relationships.

In our quest for acceptance and validation by others in interpersonal relationships our first  task is to achieve the inner work of  self acceptance. Many people confuse this with Self Esteem.

Self Esteem: When fully realized, self-esteem is manifest through confidence  in our ability to think clearly, and cope with  basic challenges of life without feeling like a failure. It is also evident through  the feelings  of worthiness, ease and ability to assert one’s needs, wants and pursuit of achieving and maintaining one’s values as well as enjoying  and celebrating the fruits of our efforts without any feelings of intimidation.

Self Acceptance : The achievement of Self Esteem is experienced  over time and attained by the practice of Self Acceptance.

We have to be “on our own side’ (an ally) instead of being against( an adversary to) ourselves, if we are to  successfully practice and achieve the self -celebration that bolsters self-esteem.

This is not to be confused with selfishness or narcissism, which is the over compensation for the basic lack of  self-love. Such a person loves neither himself nor others.”…John Powell

 Behavioral Symptoms which appear in persons who have not learned to love and esteem themselves:

Exaggerating or Bragging                           A Critical Attitude

Rationalization                                                Perfectionism

Shyness                                                               Self-deprecation

Anger                                                                   Defensive Docility

Becoming a Loner                                           Over-Achieving

Masks: Roles,Facades                                    Introjection

Absolute Agreeability                                   Cynicism and Suspicion


Once our  self-esteem is at an acceptably high level, our participation in inter-personal relationships score a high ‘water-mark’ level  and we are able to draw to us individuals who resonate with the positive vibrations that we exude. 

“To trust one’s mind and to know that one is worthy of happiness is the essence of Self Esteem”…..Nathaniel Branden

Lynette laveau Saxe

Success Coach



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