Lots of relationships rarely follow a seamless path .What you do when a relationship hits a bump in the road has the power to either make commitment happen…or cause the relationship to fall apart.
Knowing how to navigate these bumps is important to the SURVIVAL of a relationship.
HOW DO I GET HIM BACK?
Maybe you’re in a relationship that has hit a snag. Or maybe one of you decided to end things. And maybe you’re wondering if it’s possible to save things.
It IS – if you both agree to certain terms. According to Christian Carter: Relationship coach and Author of “Catch Him and Keep Him”
there are “5 Requirements”:
Requirement #1: You must forgive or move past all past wrongs.
This might seem like common sense, but one thing is saying that you forgive, and another is actually LIVING this in the relationship – day to day. If either one of you hold onto resentment and makes the other person feel wrong about what happened – even in subtle ways – the relationship can’t move into deeper levels of intimacy.
Requirement #2: He must be open and honest and listen to what HE did that didn’t work for you. AND you must address that as an ongoing PROCESS in your relationship.
‘Process ‘ here means continuously working on the problem TOGETHER.
Requirement #3: YOU must commit to being open and honest and listening to the things YOU did that didn’t work in the relationship for him…and you must address that as a process in your relationship.
Requirement #4: You must make an agreement for complete honesty from here forward – with no withholding for fear of hurting one another.
Requirement #5: Getting back together in a relationship that wasn’t working HAS to be more about creating a fulfilling life for each other and yourself than it has to be about FIXING the relationship.
When you focus on creating a fulfilling life together – rather than being in “fixing” mode – the relationship becomes healthier.
…Christian Carter ,Dating Reationship Expert.
By following the requirements,faithfully you are being intentional about moving forward rather than being in a ‘stuck mode’ which is an unhealthy state for any relationship.
Lynette Laveau Saxe
Certified Success Coach