Romantic/Personal Relationships

Defining Happiness


Happiness is a personal feeling that some people explain as contentment, an absence of hurt or frustration, extended euphoria, good health and feelings, set goals accomplished, successful outcomes, debts paid off, presence of abundance, confirmed prospects of unending supply,even a growing bank account, and above all a  relationship with God and secure relationship with an attentive partner or spouse.

A person’s sense of Happiness is ensured by and depends on the continued state of the conditions  listed above around them.

It amounts to feeling good about the positive events in one’s life

Any shift in said conditions would effect a downward change in the state of a person’s happiness.

So then what  is true happiness, where does it begin and  what are its roots?

Mike Murdock of The Wisdom Center quotes

” Happiness does not start around you, it begins inside you.Stop waiting for flowers to arrive”.

He gives 4 Essential Ingredients for Happiness:

1.Your relationship with God is a Must: he is your Creator and wants to have regular commune with his creation.

2.Your relationships with Family are Vital.Time spent with your family is never wasted.Wipe out criticism and sarcasm from your home.

Be a confidence builder.

3. Friendships are greater than Gold. Discern those orchestrated by the Holy Spirit and build  them carefully, consistently and wisely.

4. Setting goals is important to achieving your Happiness

Start building on your dreams. Resist those who control and change your personal goals ….Mike Murdock,The Wisdom Center

Get started on a project in your life, especially one that gives you a sense of personal fullfilment and accomplishment.


You are the only one there is like you, and your value is priceless.

Moreover you are one with God because God dwells inside you.

Therefore you are to celebrate you each and every day, even when you don’t feel like celebrating, because of the unique quality that you have been given at birth, from your fingerprints,  eye retina, hand print, individual gait, distinctive voice and even breath print.

All these things make you unique and priceless.



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Temporary break up

Lots of relationships rarely follow a seamless path .What you do when a relationship hits a bump in the road has the power to either make commitment happen…or cause the relationship to fall apart.
Knowing how to navigate these bumps is  important to the SURVIVAL of a relationship. 

Maybe you’re in a relationship that has hit a snag. Or maybe one of you decided to end things. And maybe you’re wondering if it’s possible to save things.
It IS – if you both agree to certain terms. According to Christian Carter: Relationship coach and Author of “Catch Him and Keep Him”

there are “5 Requirements”:
Requirement #1: You must forgive or move past all past wrongs.
This might seem like common sense, but one thing is saying that you forgive, and another is actually LIVING this in the relationship – day to day. If either one of you hold onto resentment and makes the other person feel wrong about what happened – even in subtle ways – the relationship can’t move into deeper levels of intimacy.
Requirement #2: He must be open and honest and listen to what HE did that didn’t work for you. AND you must address that as an ongoing PROCESS in your relationship.
‘Process ‘ here means continuously working on the problem TOGETHER.
Requirement #3: YOU must commit to being open and honest and listening to the things YOU did that didn’t work in the relationship for him…and you must address that as a process in your relationship.
Requirement #4: You must make an agreement for complete honesty from here forward – with no withholding for fear of hurting one another.
Requirement #5: Getting back together in a relationship that wasn’t working HAS to be more about creating a fulfilling life for each other and yourself than it has to be about FIXING the relationship.
When you focus on creating a fulfilling life together – rather than being in “fixing” mode – the relationship becomes healthier.

Christian Carter ,Dating Reationship Expert.

By following the  requirements,faithfully you are being intentional about moving forward rather than being in  a ‘stuck mode’ which is an unhealthy state for any relationship.

Lynette Laveau Saxe

Certified Success Coach



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