‘Love is a many splendored thing’ goes the line of an old song.
‘Love : The ability and willingness to allow those whom you care for, to be what they choose for themselves, without any insistance that they satisfy you”……….Wayne Dyer- Self Help Advocate.Author, Speaker
Love is not a feeling but a commitment. Feelings come and go, peak and fall.
Consistently having ‘feelings of Love’ toward someone is not the way humans interact and behave”. People’s feelings wax and wane depending on the actions of others and external internal circumstances. So feelings are not to be trusted or depended upon for sustained love connections. What we feel when we say we are ‘in love’ actually amounts to lust’ and even those feelings are short lived and unsustainable over a period of time. But when one makes a commitment to love someone, the consistency of our love is not affected by our feelings, but by our familiarity, trust and our commitment and willingness to love that person even during times when they are unlovable.
It is then we say that we have a ‘loving connection’ with someone which is based on a sustained friendship, trust, acceptance and willingness to be vulnerable to the other person, despite their shortcomings and imperfections.
What are the Words for Love?
- Eros, which is sexual or romantic love.
- Phileo, which is a brotherly love toward someone we really like.
- Storgay, which is the love of one’s relatives.
- Agape, which is the deepest love, is based on doing good for another person.
‘Agape’ is the highest form of Love.
It means ‘seeking the highest good for the other person, without
seeking any material reward in return”. This is the love that God has for
mankind and this model of Love alleviates stress and builds dynamic