The Value of Self-Acceptance in Relationships.
In our quest for acceptance and validation by others in interpersonal relationships our first task is to achieve the inner work of self acceptance. Many people confuse this with Self Esteem.
Self Esteem: When fully realized, self-esteem is manifest through confidence in our ability to think clearly, and cope with basic challenges of life without feeling like a failure. It is also evident through the feelings of worthiness, ease and ability to assert one’s needs, wants and pursuit of achieving and maintaining one’s values as well as enjoying and celebrating the fruits of our efforts without any feelings of intimidation.
Self Acceptance : The achievement of Self Esteem is experienced over time and attained by the practice of Self Acceptance.
We have to be “on our own side’ (an ally) instead of being against( an adversary to) ourselves, if we are to successfully practice and achieve the self -celebration that bolsters self-esteem.
“This is not to be confused with selfishness or narcissism, which is the over compensation for the basic lack of self-love. Such a person loves neither himself nor others.”…John Powell
Behavioral Symptoms which appear in persons who have not learned to love and esteem themselves:
Exaggerating or Bragging A Critical Attitude
Anger Defensive Docility
Becoming a Loner Over-Achieving
Masks: Roles,Facades Introjection
Absolute Agreeability Cynicism and Suspicion
Once our self-esteem is at an acceptably high level, our participation in inter-personal relationships score a high ‘water-mark’ level and we are able to draw to us individuals who resonate with the positive vibrations that we exude.
“To trust one’s mind and to know that one is worthy of happiness is the essence of Self Esteem”…..Nathaniel Branden
Lynette laveau Saxe