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Self Acceptance

The Value of Self-Acceptance in Relationships.

In our quest for acceptance and validation by others in interpersonal relationships our first  task is to achieve the inner work of  self acceptance. Many people confuse this with Self Esteem.

Self Esteem: When fully realized, self-esteem is manifest through confidence  in our ability to think clearly, and cope with  basic challenges of life without feeling like a failure. It is also evident through  the feelings  of worthiness, ease and ability to assert one’s needs, wants and pursuit of achieving and maintaining one’s values as well as enjoying  and celebrating the fruits of our efforts without any feelings of intimidation.

Self Acceptance : The achievement of Self Esteem is experienced  over time and attained by the practice of Self Acceptance.

We have to be “on our own side’ (an ally) instead of being against( an adversary to) ourselves, if we are to  successfully practice and achieve the self -celebration that bolsters self-esteem.

This is not to be confused with selfishness or narcissism, which is the over compensation for the basic lack of  self-love. Such a person loves neither himself nor others.”…John Powell

 Behavioral Symptoms which appear in persons who have not learned to love and esteem themselves:

Exaggerating or Bragging                           A Critical Attitude

Rationalization                                                Perfectionism

Shyness                                                               Self-deprecation

Anger                                                                   Defensive Docility

Becoming a Loner                                           Over-Achieving

Masks: Roles,Facades                                    Introjection

Absolute Agreeability                                   Cynicism and Suspicion


Once our  self-esteem is at an acceptably high level, our participation in inter-personal relationships score a high ‘water-mark’ level  and we are able to draw to us individuals who resonate with the positive vibrations that we exude. 

“To trust one’s mind and to know that one is worthy of happiness is the essence of Self Esteem”…..Nathaniel Branden

Lynette laveau Saxe

Success Coach



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Peer/Social Relationships

How and why Bullying exists.

Respect: “A word that is often thrown about very loosely, as much as it is often used very strongly, is a very important concept in life. Everyone desires rspect; however we do not always show it and sometimes we do not receive it”.

……..Niyi Taiwo -Creator of EKTIMIS, Author of “Top Ten Laws of Respect” book series, Speaker.

 Early in life a child recognizes that respect is a powerful tool in the forging and strengthening of bonds in the family , peer groups and the world at large.

 When the foundational skills and principles of  building self respect are absent,  due to toxic environments of abuse, neglect and abandonment,psychological damage to the individual results. This is usually manifest in  behavior called ‘Bullying’  as the individual seeks to gain control by being forceful, demanding and sometimes violent (verbally and physically) as they model and replicate the toxic behaviors they have experienced and witnessed early in life.

The child is seeking self respect and peer respect in a toxic manner.Consequently he or she becomes isolated rather than bonded with peers or family members as they try to deal with the pain of lacking self worth.The child seeks to be empowered through a series of behaviors that go against  successful respect  of self and relationship building with others.

 Twitter Message to Lady Gaga, an ambassador against Bullying.

@Datelinenbc Breeding compassion in the student body is the way toward saving lives, both sides. This message is key. Empower kindness.

Lynette Laveau Saxe

Certified Success Coach


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Creating Dynamic Relationships

Relationships :one of the most powerful human motivators.

“A relationship is a series of positive emotional connections between two people that produce trust. It has little to do with friendship;

it has everything to do with trust. Trust creates predictability in people.These components  foster and engender trust.

People decide emotionally, and justify logically”….Marshall Howard( Business Relationship Expert).

The power of the individual builds Dynamic Relationships, which are not ready made but are nurtured.

This power is enhanced by  the individual’s ongoing diligence of mastering  self love. This then enables the reaching out to others with a similar type

of selfless giving, nurturing and esteeming of others.

The individuals in the relationships take responsibility for  connecting with others through the governance of their emotions and actions while putting the other person’s needs first and esteeming their traits, attributes and accomplishments.

In any type of relationship,the goal is to connect with the other person first.

Building relationships  in business is a genuinely heartwarming and organic process that allows you to connect first without  asking for anything.

People may forget what you say or what you do, they will never forget how you made them feel…

This is the essence of forging and creating Dynamic relationships.

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